ANNIE'S MAILBOX: The nude pictures can pose a real problem

By Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar

Dear Annie: For the past eight months, my 18-year-old son has been dating a girl who just turned 16. Call me naive, but I didn’t realize they were sexually active. Recently, I discovered some alarmingly pornographic pictures of this girl on my son’s computer. I was stunned, and I deleted all the pictures. I am opposed to his sexual activity, but I am more fearful that there might be accusations against my son of having child pornography in his possession. Kids today don’t understand the ramifications of sharing pictures like this, and I’m afraid my son is going to get into a great deal of legal trouble.

If her parents find these, I am petrified they will have my son arrested. I’m also concerned that if my son and his girlfriend break up, things could get nasty and my otherwise nice child will have a sex crime attached to his life forever.

How dangerous is this, and how do I get across the seriousness of the situation to my son and make sure he knows that he needs to keep his pants zipped and stop taking pictures?

Freaked-Out Mom

Dear Mom: Sending and receiving nude photographs of an underage teen is considered trafficking in child pornography, and teenagers can be (and have been) prosecuted. Anyone 18 or older in possession of such pictures might have to register as a sex offender. These pictures can also make their way around the Internet and be on view forever to anyone, causing teens to lose summer jobs and college scholarships. The most common instances involve sexting, so it’s quite likely similar photos are on your son’s cell phone.

Please explain this calmly and rationally to your son. His girlfriend is 16 now, and current pictures may not be considered child pornography, but the older pictures are still a risk. Ask him to delete all such photos and to promise not to forward any pictures of her, new or old, to anyone else.

Dear Annie: I am the product of an affair my mother had. After 50 years, I finally met my birth father and his wife. He acknowledged the relationship, but asked me to not reveal it to his children until after his death. I agreed.

Over the years, his wife and I exchanged holiday cards and e-mails. She recently died, and he is in a nursing home with Alzheimer’s. One of my half-siblings has died, and my remaining half-sisters are getting quite old. I would like to contact them. Should I let them know or just continue to stay out of their lives?

Need Advice in Virginia

Dear Virginia: You made a promise to say nothing as long as your biological father is alive, and we think you should respect that. He obviously did not want to be confronted by his children about the affair. It is more than likely his daughters will outlive him. Please be patient a little longer.

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