ANNIE’S MAILBOX: Take time to remember our veterans

By Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar

Dear Readers: Today is Memorial Day. Please take a moment to remember and appreciate the sacrifices made by the men and women who have served their country. In their honor, we would like to reprint one of our favorite poems on the subject, by John T. Bird of Birmingham, Ala.:

Last Monday in May

We pause to remember Those who died With so much courage, So much pride. They’ll never come back But memories endure To remind us of freedom: Fragile, pure. We’re worthy of their sacrifice If we pause each day Not just on The last Monday in May.

Dear Annie: My wife and I have four grown children. I was pretty strict — no dating until 16, no staying out after midnight, no smoking or drinking. The kids were disciplined, but never spanked. They had chores, but could spend the money they earned any way they liked. I thought they turned out pretty well.

After they left home, my wife and I divorced after 26 years of marriage. Slowly things began to change, and now my two daughters won’t speak to me and the boys think I was too hard on them growing up.

For the life of me, I cannot figure out what has happened and why they remember their childhood so much differently than I do. Can you tell me what is going on and why?

Stumped

Dear Stumped: Children often remember their childhoods differently than their parents and even their siblings, because the memories are filtered through their young, self-absorbed interpretations. In your case, there could also be many negative associations triggered by the divorce (and it’s also possible Mom or other relatives could be contributing somewhat on that score).

Dear Annie: This is in response to “Frustrated Parents of a Former High Achiever,” whose 20-year-old son was kicked out of college for marijuana use. He most likely is addicted to marijuana. At 20, this is more serious than an adolescent attitude he will grow out of. Marijuana, like cigarettes, alcohol and other addictive substances, raises dopamine levels in the brain. The developing brain, especially in adolescence and young adulthood, is vulnerable to such artificial stimulation, leading to lifetimes plagued by addiction and its consequences.

I am a physician certified in addiction medicine by the American Society of Addiction Medicine, and am committed to getting the word out about the consequences of substance abuse in our adolescents and young adults.

Please advise the parents to seek help through groups such as Families Anonymous or Nar-Anon. Some young addicts do eventually correct themselves and change, but unfortunately, many do not.

Emily Rayes-Prince, M.D., DABAM, Kentucky

Dear Dr. Rayes-Prince: Thank you for your professional take on the subject. Interested readers can contact Families Anonymous (familiesanonymous.org) at 800-736-9805 or Nar-Anon (nar-anon.org) at 800-477-6291.

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