ANNIE’S MAILBOX: Hubby deleted her from his site

By Kathy Mitchell and Marcy Sugar

Dear Annie: My husband and I each have our own profiles on Facebook, and we are “friends,” so we can see each other’s profiles. Weeks ago, I noticed that he had deleted all pictures of me from his photos. When I asked him about it, he said it was “accidental.” I asked him to put at least one photo of me back on there, and he said he would, but he hasn’t.

His profile photo on this site is our wedding picture with my face cropped out. His friends have been inviting him more frequently to events that do not include me (although some wives are there). The last event they had, they made sure to invite our dog but not me.

Am I right to feel hurt? Should I be suspicious?

Worried

Dear Worried: Your husband deleted your photo from his networking site and cropped you out of his wedding picture. His friends exclude you from events where other wives are present. They’d rather socialize with your dog than you. Suspicious? You bet. Your husband is clearly telling you something, and it isn’t good. Ask him to go with you for counseling.

Dear Annie: I am wondering whether I should continue to gift my daughter-in-law at Christmas. A year ago, “Laurie” informed me that she was contemplating a divorce.

Laurie and my son have three children. Her father paid for the children’s private school education, and he is now covering the oldest child’s college tuition. In turn, for the past 25 years, I have contributed more than $10,000 annually for their living expenses, most recently paying off their home mortgage of $224,000.

Laurie and I used to get along, but since her announcement about the potential divorce, she has stopped corresponding with me, with the exception of two e-mails. Because she is taking out her marital unhappiness on me, I do not feel inclined to gift her at Christmastime.

I usually give each of them $500. Would I be wrong to eliminate her as a recipient?

To Gift or Not To Gift

Dear Gift: Laurie is the mother of your grandchildren and, until she goes through with a divorce, is still your daughter-in-law. You don’t owe her such a generous gift, but she is a member of your family and should be treated as any other. Keep in mind that she and your son could reconcile.

Dear Annie: This is for “Anxiously Awaiting,” who had an elective bilateral mastectomy and her husband won’t look at her naked. My wife of 42 years is a survivor of breast cancer. After the radical mastectomy, she, too, wondered if I would ever again look at her in the nude. My answer was to remind her of our marriage vows: “In sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, until death do us part.” I said we need to add “in pieces and in parts.”

I asked her, “Would you leave me if I lost a leg in an accident?” She said, “No.” I didn’t marry her for breasts. I love her. At least she’s here.

In Pieces and In Love

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