STOP THE MONSTER \ Planning tips It’s a beautiful thing when a bridegroom wants to be involved in the wedding plans, says Rob Johnsen, co-founder of mywedding.com. But if the groom muscles in

Don’t squelch his enthusiasm, try to control it. Remind him he is one half of a whole couple.

Take the pressure off. Let him know every detail doesn’t have to be perfect. There will be glitches - so go with the flow and enjoy the surprises. Glitches often make the most memorable moments.

If a situation with a vendor gets ugly, cut your losses and walk away - but follow up with a polite, handwritten apology. Wedding professionals tend to network, so beware! If word gets out a groom is difficult to work with, other vendors may refuse your business.

Men are fundamentally horrible listeners. To make herself heard, the bride needs to catch her groom in a quiet moment when she has his undivided attention.

If the bride can’t get through to Groomzilla, have someone else in the wedding party talk him down - the best man, a brother, a parent.

Draw up a list of responsibilities, then divide them among the wedding planners. Give the groom those tasks best suited to his interests, expertise and personality.