Bad feelings still live 10 years after princess’s death

Prince Charles’ wife, Camilla, will not attend the service.

LONDON (AP) — Princess Diana is at rest, but the passions that swirled around her tempestuous marriage to Prince Charles are still evident as friends and family prepare to commemorate her life at a memorial service today.

The religious service, exactly 10 years after her death in a Paris car crash, has triggered fresh recriminations against Charles’ second wife. And the media have closely watched to see who’s invited to the ceremony and who’s not coming.

Emotions have quieted; there has been no repetition of the vast carpet of flowers laid outside Diana’s palace by grieving Britons. But memories of the glamorous “people’s princess” hold their grip on the public, remembrances of a woman who touched hearts, who suffered, who died.

A prayer written for the memorial service by the archbishop of Canterbury, Rowan Williams, gives thanks “for all the memories of her that we treasure still.”

“Her vulnerability and her willingness to reach out to the excluded and forgotten touched us all; her generosity gave hope and joy to many. May she rest in peace where sorrow and pain are banished,” Williams wrote.

Queen Elizabeth II will head the list of guests at the service in the Guards’ Chapel near Buckingham Palace.

Not attending

Charles’ wife, Camilla, Duchess of Cornwall, changed her mind about attending in the face of criticism from those who blame her for breaking up his marriage to Diana.

“On reflection I believe my attendance could divert attention from the purpose of the occasion, which is to focus on the life and service of Diana,” the duchess said last weekend.

Media reports have described Camilla as being furious with Charles, and Charles as pointing to his sons as the instigators of the troublesome invitation to their stepmother, which she at first accepted.

Diana’s former butler, Paul Burrell, who has written two gossipy books about his years in her service, wasn’t invited. Nor was Patrick Jephson, the princess’ former private secretary, who also wrote two books about her.

Princes William and Harry, who have accused Burrell of a “cold and overt betrayal” of their mother, were among organizers of the event. They visited the chapel Thursday to make final preparations for the service.

“I have respect for the decision taken by Princes William and Harry, and understand the position from their point of view,” Burrell said, denying newspapers reports that he had harangued the princes’ office about his exclusion.

Mohamed al Fayed, who accuses Prince Philip of masterminding a plot to kill Diana and his son Dodi Fayed, also wasn’t on the guest list. He plans two minutes of silence at Harrods, his department store.

In attendance

Philip plans to attend today’s service, but the event is not listed on the diary of Princess Anne, who was known to have a strained relationship with her sister-in-law.

Sir Elton John was invited, but he won’t reprise his reworking of “Candle in the Wind,” which he performed at the funeral.

Prime Minister Gordon Brown and former Prime Minister John Major, who was in office when the royal marriage broke up, also were invited, as were more than 110 representatives of charities and other organizations Diana supported.