'Daniel' is no longer a welcome guest

Dear Annie: My husband of nine years has a brother, "Daniel," whom I have never been comfortable with, but have tolerated. My husband's sister will not allow Daniel in her home, and another brother will not even speak to him.
Daniel lives several hours away and recently invited himself to visit for the weekend. He brought his new girlfriend, whom we did not invite or want to stay with us. He also brought his two daughters, ages 13 and 3, and left them unsupervised while he slept on the couch or stood outside and smoked. And he expected me to do his laundry.
The worst part is Daniel's foul mouth. Despite reminding him to keep it PG in front of our children, Daniel and his girlfriend constantly talked about sex. He made disgusting innuendos out of everything. On the third day, Daniel swore at my children because they accidentally woke him from his nap. That was the last straw. I told my husband I wanted Daniel out. He left, but refused to speak to me or even wave goodbye. What really upsets me is that the very next day, my husband talked to Daniel as if nothing had happened.
I don't want Daniel in my home again. Furthermore, I don't want my husband speaking to him because it seems disrespectful to me. My husband disagrees. Do I have an obligation to allow Daniel into my home? Am I wrong to think my husband is betraying us by allowing such behavior without any repercussions? This is causing quite a rift. Lisa from California
Dear Lisa: Daniel sounds like a creep. You do not have to have him in your home, nor do you have to see him (those are the repercussions), but please don't tell your husband to cut off contact with his brother. That is not your decision to make, and your husband will resent you if you demand it. He can see Daniel on his own.
Dear Annie: I've been dating "George" for four years, and I love him dearly. His family is very kind, but they have a couple of habits I find inappropriate.
The first is snorting. When their noses are stuffed, which seems to be a good deal of the time, they snort constantly. When we're at a restaurant, I'm embarrassed and more than a little grossed out. They also pick their teeth in public with those little plastic flossers.
George used to snort, too, but I finally told him it is rude, and he has, for the most part, quit. Is snorting medically required for some people? Is snorting and tooth picking considered rude, as my mother always taught me? Is there a way to kindly tell these people to knock it off? Nauseated
Dear Nauseated: Um, no. You can ask George to suggest to his parents that they see a doctor about their sinus congestion (it could be allergies), and to pick their teeth in private, but otherwise, all you can do is decide if you want to be seen in public with them. Sorry.
Dear Annie: I just moved to a new area, and every time I call to refill my prescription medications, I am required to come in for another office visit.
I have been taking the same two medications for years, and they do not require constant supervision. This leads me to conclude that the doctors in this area are only after the whopping 166 office visit fee.
I am angry that I need to take time off work to see a doctor once a month, just for her to whiz in, ask two questions and then authorize my refills. Do doctors not make enough that they have to run a scam like this? V.
Dear V.: Doctors often want to see patients, especially new ones, to make sure the medications are working, that they are being taken properly and that there are no new side effects after longtime use. However, there is nothing wrong with asking your doctor if she can prescribe more pills at a time so you don't have to come in as often.
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