KATHY MITCHELL AND MARCY SUGAR \ Annie's Mailbox Make Bill leave or be stuck with him forever

Dear Annie: My husband and I are in our late 40s, and our friend, "Bill," is a few years younger. Bill lives 20 miles away from us, and in the five years we have known him, he has either called or stopped by our house nearly every day.
We have Caller ID and often don't answer when Bill phones, but that doesn't stop him from ringing our bell. Sometimes, he will pull into our driveway and call us on his cell phone. We see him park down the road and watch our place. A lot of the time we just lock the door and hope he goes away.
Bill used to borrow our car and lawnmower, but he never refilled the tanks with gas, so we stopped doing that. He also borrows all of our tools and then complains about them when he returns them. He is full of suggestions that he doesn't take himself. Bill has to know everyone and everything before you do, and he lies to make himself look good. We once confronted him about a lie, and he got mad and stayed away for months. However, the phone calls and visits have started again.
How do we get this guy to go home to his loving wife so we can have our lives back? Go Away in the Midwest
Dear Go Away: You've been way too accommodating. Regardless of the reasons that Bill is hanging around, it's time to pull up the welcome mat. Tell him, "Bill, we love you, but we need some privacy. You are welcome to drop by now and then, as long as you call first to see if it's convenient." If he shows up unexpectedly, stand by the door, remind him he was supposed to call, say it's an inconvenient time, and tell him he will have to leave. If you don't have the courage to do this, he will be a fly in your ointment forever.
Dear Annie: I am a 12-year-old girl with very sensitive skin, and I have an annoying problem with underarm hair. I want to shave there, but my mom won't let me. She tells me scary stories of ingrown hair and how I could cut myself, and speaks badly about waxing and using depilatories, since I have sensitive skin.
My mom uses tweezers to remove her hair. I tried it twice and found it incredibly painful. I would like my mother to respect my choice and let me shave, but she won't. I've already talked to her, but she still turned me down. So I've been using scissors, but people still seem to notice the hair under my arms when I wear sleeveless shirts or a swimsuit. My best friend started hinting to me about my hair, but so far, I've ignored her.
What should I do, Annie? I can't shave or use creams, tweezers are too painful, laser is too expensive, waxing looks scary, and I don't want to use scissors for the rest of my life. Want To Go Bald
Dear Bald: There are women who like their underarm hair, but since you don't, we hope Mom will reconsider shaving. You are just as likely to get ingrown hairs from tweezing. There also are creams to help deal with sensitive skin after shaving, and depilatory creams made especially for sensitive skin. If Mom won't listen to you, discuss it with your father, another relative or an adult friend -- someone who will talk to Mom on your behalf. Good luck.
Dear Annie: This is for "Simi Valley, Calif.," the 55-year-old self-employed hairdresser who feels she cannot last another 10 years at her job. Tell her to go to a trade school.
I am 60 years old and wanted to get out of nursing. When I was unable to find a job with the skills I had, I went to a trade school and took a course to be an administrative assistant. Within a month of completing the course, I was employed and now have insurance. One is never too old to learn. Former Nurse
Dear Former Nurse: We heard from quite a few readers who have made late career changes. Life is full of possibilities at any age. Onward and upward.
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