He's also cheating on 'Other Woman'

Dear Annie: I have been seeing a married man for two years. When we first got together, "Boyd" told me the spark in his marriage just wasn't there anymore. He also mentioned that before he met me, he had been seeing someone else. This Other Woman lived far away, and they would meet halfway. Boyd told me it became too inconvenient to see her and he and the O.W. were finished.
Five months into our relationship, Boyd admitted he was still seeing the O.W., so I ended things immediately. Two months later, he wanted me back, and I gave in. I missed him, and I care for him so much. Since then, I have asked him a number of times if he is seeing anyone else, and his answer is always no.
Boyd and I work together, and I see him drive into the office parking lot every morning. He is always on his cell phone talking to someone. I know it isn't his wife, because she's at home and he just saw her. I have a gut feeling that he is still involved with the O.W., but I'm not sure.
I know the woman's name and phone number. I want to call her and ask about Boyd, but I don't want him to find out. Can you help me? New York Lady
Dear N.Y.: Let's see. You're having an affair with a married man, and you think he is cheating on you. You want us to help you check him out on the sly. Honey, you have more problems with this relationship than we can count.
Here's our advice: If Boyd is cheating on his wife, he probably is cheating on you as well. If you call the O.W., she will know it's you and absolutely will spill the beans to Boyd. And no matter what you find out, you will never be able to trust him. Get out now, and don't look back. This relationship is going nowhere.
Dear Annie: My stepdaughter has been living with her boyfriend for two years, and they recently announced their engagement. Her father and I are thrilled. However, we have a dispute over who is financially responsible for the wedding.
Since my husband and the mother of the bride are divorced, I think the cost of the wedding should be divided equally between the two of them. Also, the bride is 25 years old, and the couple has been living together. It seems reasonable to expect the newly engaged couple to contribute to the wedding expenses.
My husband says that as the father of the bride, he is responsible for the entire wedding, but our budget won't allow us to afford the wedding she wants. The ex-wife has no intention of contributing a dime. The bride informed me that this is "what daddies and grandparents are for." Dreading the Nuptials
Dear Dreading: How sweet. Your husband is not as obligated as he thinks. Couples who have been living together should pay most of the costs of their own wedding. We say if Daddy wishes to contribute, the two of you should decide what you can afford and give his daughter a check in that amount. However, if your husband wants to pay for the wedding, no matter what, discuss what you can afford, but don't set yourself up as a barrier between your husband and his daughter.
Dear Annie: This letter is in response to "Never Been Kissed." I, too, am a 17-year-old girl who has never been kissed. I have been close to only one boy, and that relationship fizzled out before it went anywhere. I also wonder if I am normal and worry about the transition to college without any life experience. When I read the letter from "Never Been Kissed," it gave me hope, because now I know I am not in the boat alone. Providence, R.I.
Dear R.I.: You'd be surprised how many others (boys, too) are sharing that boat. For all the inexperienced high-school kids out there -- your time will come.
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