Retreats offer rest, guidance
No talking, no noise, no phones, no stress.
PITTSBORO, N.C. (AP) -- Swinging away lazy afternoons in a hammock. Indulging in quiche and homemade peach cobbler from the General Store Cafe. Walking barefoot on the grass down to a placid pond, cooled by the summer breeze off Jordan Lake.
All are on the agenda -- or not -- at Windsong, a spiritual retreat center about 45 minutes outside of Raleigh where there are no rules, no "to do" lists, and no need to take a vacation after the vacation.
"We wanted to create a space, where, even if the guests do absolutely nothing, they'd start to shift from the moment they walk in the door," said Anna Cassilly, the center's co-founder.
Windsong is one of several retreat centers around North Carolina. Not just for clergy or artists, these centers provide sanctuary to anyone needing a break from everyday stress. While some retreat centers are affiliated with religious traditions, others -- like Windsong -- are secular sanctuaries where activities range from doing nothing at all to practicing yoga to attending classes on various self-improvement topics. Length of stay ranges from as little as a day at Windsong to as long as a month at Living Waters Catholic Reflection Center.
"We're human beings, not human 'doings', and often we're pressured into doing, doing, doing. Sometimes you need a break, sometimes some guidance," said Cassilly.
Their property
Cassilly and her husband, Terry Otto, searched for seven years for the perfect property on which to build their pocket of peace. It had to be accessible -- and it is, right off Highway 64 near Pittsboro. It had to be green and lush and beautiful, amenable to gardening and long walks. It had to be especially dark at night so the stars could be seen. And most of all, it had to be silent.
"I listen to silence the way other people listen to music," Cassilly said. "You can't hear anything here -- no cars, no loud neighbors. It's such an essential part of the retreat experience. After a few minutes of listening to the birds sing and to the wind rustle, people just start shifting."
Visitors to Windsong can take walks, eat fine cheese from nearby Celebrity Dairy or lie in a hammock. Cassilly is both a former conflict mediator and a certified Kripalu yoga instructor, and she offers classes in both topics.
Mountain retreat
Elsewhere in the state, Southern Dharma is a mountain center located an hour northwest of Asheville, near Hot Springs. The 25-year-old facility offers silent meditation retreats for a wide array of religious traditions, including Buddhism, Sufi traditions, contemplative Christianity, Judaism and universal chanting, director Dagmar Nickerson said.
Guests are asked to speak only during evening lecture discussions, in personal interviews with teachers or at the final meal of the retreat.
The goals, according to Nickerson, are to remove distractions, allow contemplation, and encourage inner peace.
Living Waters Catholic Reflection Center, cocooned in the mountains about 40 miles west of Asheville, is owned by the Diocese of Charlotte. Like Windsong, it has self-directed retreats, but it also offers scheduled sessions and directed retreats with Augustinian friars such as Brother Bill Harkin.
"Our whole ministry is to provide a quiet, clean, safe place," said Harkin, who directs the center. "We just want people to be refreshed spiritually as well as physically. To slow down -- re-evaluate where they are in their lives, and maybe plan for the future."
To that end, there are no phones in any of the 45 private rooms. Guests can choose from a "Preach Retreat," where a speaker holds lectures twice a day; a weeklong "Nature Retreat," which partakes of the nearby Great Smoky Mountains National Park and Cherokee Indian reservation; a private retreat; or a sabbatical, which goes for at least a month. The center even advertises itself as a place for couples to celebrate a quiet but meaningful wedding anniversary.
Busier retreat
Another church-affiliated retreat center, Kanuga Conferences, consists of 1,400 mountain acres near Hendersonville overlooking Kanuga Lake. Affiliated with the Episcopal Church, Kanuga is a busier sort of retreat, welcoming an estimated 35,000 visitors year-round.
Guests come primarily for religious conferences and group retreats, though individual retreats are possible during Christmas, Thanksgiving, and the summer weeks. Guest periods offer Bible studies, crafts, and conversations with a chaplain.
"We want people to be inspired," says Frank Ballard, a spokesman for the nonprofit. "But not just by the speakers. We want them to be inspired by the serenity of the place, the earth as God created it."
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