KATHY MITCHELL AND MARCY SUGAR | Annie's Mailbox Readers have plenty to say to 'Wisconsin'

Dear Annie: I want to respond to "Wouldn't Take That in Wisconsin," the man who equates making love with the chores he does around the house. Why would anyone want his wife to make love to him with the same passion he displays in taking out the trash? What should she say -- "Let me slip into something slinky, and you can cover me with coffee grounds and egg shells"? I'm surprised there are any children conceived in Wisconsin if that's how the men are in that state.
How can this cheesehead possibly understand how a pregnant woman feels? Would it turn him on to have her whisper, "Oh, baby," while he's trying to pass a kidney stone? If "Wisconsin's" wife gets aroused when he shovels the driveway, he'd better hang on to her. Wyoming Woman
Dear Wyoming: The readers certainly gave us an earful on this one. Maybe there should be a "National Have Sex With Your Spouse Day" for those who aren't getting any. Read on for more:
From New Jersey: I am one of those husbands whose sex life has somehow gone from twice a week to twice a month to twice a year. I am still at a loss to explain it. I provide a decent income for my family, take care of the house and help with the children. I'm tired of doing without. Is this normal?
Louisville, Ky.: My wife is pregnant, and I want to concentrate on her well-being, not sex. I can wait until she is ready, even if it means another eight months.
No City: I am a married woman, and my husband let me know I should not ask for sex -- he would inform me when he was ready. I'm still waiting. I now realize why people cheat. Let's face it, we all need to know we are attractive and loved.
Alexandria, La.: I'm pregnant, and my husband is supportive of me in every way, whether I feel like having sex or not. I'm going straight into the other room to give him a big kiss for being so wonderful.
Minot, N.D.: "Wisconsin" is an insensitive, knuckle-dragging cretin. Until this idiot can mow the lawn while creating a new life and enduring the raging hormones of pregnancy, he has no point of reference.
Anyplace, USA: I don't recall my wedding vows saying anything about being a sexual slave to my husband. How would he feel if, on those nights when I'm in the mood and he's not, I tell him to rig up a pulley because I'm getting mine.
Ohio: In our 45 years of marriage, if either of us "didn't feel like it," the other knew which buttons to push. Sex is the sharing of one of God's greatest gifts.
Green Bay, Wis.: I am a multiple sexual assault survivor, and consider myself a virgin at age 38 and proud of it. I have no plans to give my special gift away to a guy who doesn't deserve it. I want emotional intimacy, not just the physical part.
Holyoke, Mass.: During pregnancy, a woman is stressed and exhausted. I haven't felt the urge for sex since my daughter was born two years ago, but I have "performed" many times to keep her father happy.
Denver: Any time a healthy adult has no interest in sex, there is something else going on. Most women, in fact, report an increase in libido during pregnancy. Men need to respect and honor their wives if they expect lovemaking, but I have even harsher words for women. I'm amazed at the number of married women who use sex to reward or punish. It isn't fair to ask a man to continue to support you if you won't play ball. I don't care how many kids you've raised or how much you've sacrificed; if you don't want him, and won't meet him halfway, let him find someone else.
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